Break Up Letter : Outgrowing A Relationship

Below is my boyfriend's letter to me after he said he wanted to break up. He couldn't give a cohesive explanation then so I asked him to think about it. This is what he came up with.

I know you deserve an explanation and I have spent the last couple of days just trying to figure out what happened between us. 

We started out so in love and so sure, much like most couples. I wasn’t lying to you then when I said that I wanted to someday marry you. That’s how I felt then and I never thought that would change. 

You wanted to know everything and I am not sure if this will do either of us any good but yes, I owe it to you. So here it is.

There is no one else. There never was anyone else. I have always been faithful, believe it or not. I may have checked out girls, sure. But that was all I did… check them out because they had a nice body, nice this or nice that. I have flirted, yes but it was more an ego trip than sincere interest on anyone else. 

I have forgiven you about Kayle. I really have and I never thought about him since the day I told you I wanted to give our relationship another try. And we did well, didn’t we? That’s why I was shocked when you brought up his name the last time. He had no part in this. Not a bit.

My family has nothing to do with it. Yes, they don’t like you. It’s useless to lie about it. But they never asked me to give you up and they never disrespected you. I told them you make me happy and they get that. And even if they ever asked me to give you up, I never would have. They are important to me but they were never a part of our relationship. 

Ashley, I just grew up in a different direction. I don’t know if that is an explanation that you will accept but that is the truth. I just found myself wanting other things and you weren’t getting it. I outgrew the things we used to do together. I just found myself wanting other things and you can’t be a part of those things. 

You are the same girl I met and fell in love with six years ago and there is nothing wrong with that but I am not the same guy you met and fell in love with sex years ago. 

Could we still make this work? I don’t know. I have been thinking about this for the last two years and have been trying to work on it for two years now. I tried making you a part of the things that I do but you would always just “let me do my thing”. Again, there is nothing wrong with that. I know you were never the possessive type. It just unintentionally separated us. 

The last two years, I have been feeling like you are more a friend than a girlfriend and I know that is unfair because I know you still love me. This is the least I can do.

I never meant to hurt you. Not then… not now. I still love you and will always do just not that in the way you deserve to be loved. 

That’s all I’ve got and I do hope someday you would forgive me. It was a good six years Ashley and it is something I will forever hold dear. You will always be important to me and you will always be my bestfriend. I hope someday, you could feel the same way too.