She’s one of the boys.
You've always liked her because she's easy to deal with. She doesn't expect you to open the door for her, she watches Superbowl with you, she doesn't expect you to listen to her non-sense, and she plays poker.
She laughs at your jokes and she makes you laugh too.
You've always liked her because she's easy to deal with. She doesn't expect you to open the door for her, she watches Superbowl with you, she doesn't expect you to listen to her non-sense, and she plays poker.
She laughs at your jokes and she makes you laugh too.
She's your default when you need a date and she's doesn't mind knowing she's just a last minute replacement. You call her up when there is this movie you really want to see and your date cancelled the last minute and she'll even buy popcorn.
She's your best female buddy and your most reliable wingman. She's the one you turn to for advice when you don't know what gift to buy that girl or how to blow off another.
She's uncomplicated. She's simple. She says what's on her mind. She means exactly what she says and says exactly what she means. With her, there is no second guessing. You know you will get what you see.
Perhaps that is why you don't classify her as "hot". She's the Chuck-wearing, Metallica-listening, beer-drinking dude who just happen to be a woman. Perhaps that's why it never crossed your mind to be more than a friend to her.
You're too comfortable. Too broken in.
You don't have to watch what you're saying around her, she'll read through you anyway. You don't need to impress her with what you have done in your life, or your possessions neither do you have to cover up for your shortcomings. She doesn't care about those things anyway.
She's easy. Not easy to get but easy and natural. She doesn't give you butterflies in your stomach, just an occasional light jab when you're being a di**. She doesn't make you guess what's on her mind. She doesn't drive your crazy and she certainly doesn't ask for anything more than friendship. She's cool the way things are... right here... right now.
She doesn't expect you to call the day after your date neither does she expect you to tell her that you had a good time. She doesn't even call it a date. She doesn't ask when you will see her again. She knows and you know that you'll call her when you need to.
But it is that same comfort, simplicity and effortlessness that makes you pass her up as 'just another friend' even though you know she's is the kind of girl that you can spend the rest of your life with.
What is it? The lack of challenge? The lack of demands? The lack of "princess like attitude"? Aren't these the same things that make you leave a relationship?
Is she not pretty enough? She goes out with her hair wet. She rarely wears make up if at all. She's overweight. She's incapable of wearing high heels without falling flat on her face. She curses when she feels like it. She eats like you times two.
She has everything that you would want in a girlfriend except she's not hot and bitchy and seductive. She doesn't turn heads. She's the one whose name you forget after two seconds of meeting her. She doesn't have a strong first impression and certainly doesn't leave a lasting impression.
So, she remains forever the funny one or the responsible one or the giving one or the big sister one or the invisible one but never "the one".
Yes, she can enter a room and not get noticed and she prefers it that way. She doesn't like being the center of attention. She would rather listen than talk. She's a kingmaker. She's a support cast and she doesn't mind.
I hope you know that no matter how patient she is, she will not be be around forever. Someday someone is going to notice how special she is and she will move on. She will realize that it doesn't make sense to love someone who doesn't love her back and she's better off with someone who will not treat her like a spare tire.
Maybe you will notice her then... maybe you won't... but guess what? When that day comes, it will be your lost.
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