Life On Hold

I wonder how many people are stuck in a job they hate. They stick it out because they think it's just a "stop over on their way to their ideal job."

And God knows how many people are stuck in a relationship with someone they simply like and not love. They stick it out because it's just a "stop over" until they find the person they will spend the rest of their life with. 

How about the girls? The girls who buy clothes a size or two smaller than their real size because they are dieting anyway. Their current size is just a stop over while they shed the pounds. 

I don't get it. Why would you put yourself in a stop over stage? 

Are we too obsessed with the future that we manipulate our present in order to get to the future we envisioned? 

Or are we just lost? Unsure of what we want so we would rather to put out life in a "temporary stage".

But don't we realize that by living our life in a temporary stage would also mean we are putting our life on hold? When we buy clothes two sizes smaller, it means we are losing the days which we could have spent feeling good and excited about our new wardrobe? When we work and do something that we don't feel passionate about, we might be missing the chance to start the career that wouldn't feel like work? 

Aren't we wasting our time doing something that doesn't make us happy? Why invest time and energy on something you don't plan to keep anyway?

Why date someone you are sure you can't have a long-term relationship with? Why date someone who doesn't make you feel the way you are supposed to feel? Why date someone who gives you nothing but an "okay" time? Aren't you better off doing things on your own? Who knows? You just might discover something new about yourself? Instead of holding the hand of someone who serves no other purpose but to pass your time, why not spend your time learning how to cook? or hiking? or martial arts? Who knows? You just might finally meet "the one" in one of these things.

But more importantly, when you put your life on a Stop Over Stage, you also put your happiness on hold. Like a darn new business project in your office. Because you insist on putting your life on a stop over stage, you let happiness pass you by. Because you put your life on a Stop Over Stage, you also put your growth on hold. 

There's nothing wrong with planning for the future just as long as you make it a point to still live your life while you wait for the future. At least, when the time comes for your to leave your current job or break up with your boyfriend, you know you made the most out of your time and you will be leaving behind nothing but good memories for them and for you. 

You should make sure that while you are out haunting for the ideal job, you are still doing something you are passionate about. You will have to spend the better part of your day working everyday, might as well do something that could really maximize your abilities and hone your skills. Work like hell to get a promotion, make sure you find new friends, do your best to make a difference... so that when you do leave, you know you can come back anytime.  

When you are buying clothes, buy something that will make you look and feel good now and when the times comes when you get to your ideal weight, you will look and feel even better. 

If you are getting in a relationship, make sure you love the person you are with. If not, then just be friends with the person. You just might find the best buddy you will ever have.  

Make sure that every moment of your, every space you occupy, every little thing you do, is a moment, a space, and a thin you wouldn't have had any other way.