Dear Riched,
I always knew this day would come and I have had different scenarios in my mind on how to react when a guy shows up at our doorsteps to pick you up for a date. I thought of scaring him, not facing him, being friendly with him… I had all those… but I never thought I’d feel scared. Yes, my little angel, you father is scared of the 15-year-old boy who is not even half my weight. I’m scared he’ll take you away which I know is silly considering this is just a date but I guess every father earns a free pass on temporary insanity on the day his daughter is to date for the first time.
I have tried to forget about it the minute you walked out that door but I can’t. I feel like this is the beginning of a new phase in your life, that phase when you will start needing us less and less. I wish there is something I can do to delay it.
I always knew this day would come and I have had different scenarios in my mind on how to react when a guy shows up at our doorsteps to pick you up for a date. I thought of scaring him, not facing him, being friendly with him… I had all those… but I never thought I’d feel scared. Yes, my little angel, you father is scared of the 15-year-old boy who is not even half my weight. I’m scared he’ll take you away which I know is silly considering this is just a date but I guess every father earns a free pass on temporary insanity on the day his daughter is to date for the first time.
I have tried to forget about it the minute you walked out that door but I can’t. I feel like this is the beginning of a new phase in your life, that phase when you will start needing us less and less. I wish there is something I can do to delay it.
I look at you today, and my mind
flashes back to when you first entered our lives as a tiny baby, and my heart
is at once overcome with love and admiration for you. You have triumphed over
impossible odds. When social service picked you up from your biological
parents, you were so thin and sickly they actually thought you’d die in days
but you fought honey and look at you now. You bring happiness and life in every
room you enter. Who would have thought?
You continue to surprise us. I can help
but feel privileged to be witnessing you discover yourself, your life, and the
world. I am happy to be there the first time you realized you can sing, the
first time you draw, the first time you played the guitar, the first time you
rode a horse, the first time you swam… boy, I wonder what else you will
discover in the future and I can only hope to still be around when you settle
into a path and fulfil your dreams.
I realize now that there you have
something questions that I haven’t really tried to provide you the answers and
maybe I am being a little unfair. You deserve to know your past and I cannot
continue being scared of losing you when you do. I can only trust that I have
brought you up well and have loved you well enough for you to stay even when
you do learn who your real parents are.
We do not know much about your birth
parents other than what our lawyer told us because your adoption records are
sealed. What we do know is that they gave you up because they knew they
couldn’t provide you the care and love you deserve. Your biological mother did
it because she knew it was best for you. Even then, it was the hardest decision
she had to make, a decision that we hope we proved to be the right one.
It doesn’t mean, honey, that you are
any less our daughter. If at all, it only proves how pure our love is for you
because we didn’t have to have you. We had a choice to live a life with only
ourselves to take care of but we sought for you. We wanted you, we looked for
you, we chose you, and we love you.
If you do decide to look for your
birthparents, we will never stand in your way and we promise to do everything
we can to help you find them. I am scared. I am terrified that if you find
them, you might choose them over us but that is the risk I am willing to take
if that is what you need to be happy. Besides, you have already given us 15
years of your life and that I more than enough.
No matter what you decide to do, we
will always be there to support you because there is nothing more important to
us than your happiness.
I love you, sweetie. I always will and
never ever forget that I am proud of you everyday. I will always be you biggest
fan.
Lastly, I want to thank you for letting
us in your life. You are the greatest miracle in our life.
Your Old Pop
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